Food never has and never will be the enemy (the mental health project 2)

Hello 🙂

I have started a series on my blog and I am not really sure how well this is going to go down BUT I want to help people so once a week I will be talking about subjects that are all mental health illness related because I want to share my experiences and hopefully if you are really struggling a lot at this current moment then I want to tell you what I know and hopefully help. You can read more about my project here.

So I guess I shall get started on today’s topic. I think everyone with an eating disorder no matter what it is has grown to fear food. Maybe use it to control their emotions or to make themselves feel numb to anything. An eating disorder is a hugely powerful thing and it makes you believe that if you eat xxx then something terrible WILL happen to you. It’s not as simple as someone saying to you don’t eat that, that’s bad for you. You have an eating disorder because of something powerful but that’s okay because it IS possible to break free from that horribly strong grip. If you are anything like me then you would know all there is to know about nutrition, calories, the lot really. I find it helpful to take a moment to stand back and say to myself that eating is NOT the bad thing. This eating disorder wants to kill you. It doesn’t want anything good for you and it will poison your head with lies until it’s completely taken over and there is no “you” left.

What if you could tell yourself that all food is, well… food. It’s just something you need, it’s like air and water. I don’t know anyone that deprives themselves of oxygen. You can say it’s not the same thing but I think it is. You are depriving yourself of one of the essential components needed to live. If you had the choice to eat WHATEVER you wanted then would you take it? You do have the choice. You have the choice to stand up to the bully in your head. You have the chance to say YES when someone asks you out for a meal or YES when your friends invite you out. You have the power to say no to this eating disorder but it is all up to YOU.

Moving on to the types of food you eat, I believe that you need ALL foods to make a BALANCED diet. Chocolate, fruit, cereal, pasta, pizza, whole grains, cake etc. etc. You need all the food groups for your body to function at it’s best. I do understand that some people might genuinely like eating only fruits, vegetables, whole grains etc. I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. But I don’t want people to on purposely deprive themselves of food just because their head has bullied them into it. My diet used to be very different from what it is now. It was very wholesome with not much variety in it at all. I wasn’t happy, I rigidly counted calories, I would refuse to go out for family meals yet I was convinced I was beating my eating disorder because my weight was higher than previously.

If you feel “comfortable with where you are at now then there is a good chance you are pleasing your eating disorder. I’m not telling you it’s easy and I am not telling you to do something which would make you go back again. I just want you to think, do you really want to please your eating disorder and remain in it’s grip for the rest of your life? Recovery is never ever going to be easy but I do believe it will be worth it.

Because in recovery I can eat meals my family have prepared, I can eat crisps, cake, chocolate, fruit, cereal, carbohydrates without a second thought, I can forget about numbers and think this TASTES good, I can go out to lunch with my mum and not bat an eyelid at the options. I have a long way to go, I accept that and I am up for the challenge. Because it is a long way up from here but it is even longer back down. If there is only one thing you do then that is have faith that things WILL get better.


Homemade hummus and the mental health project introduction

Hello everyone,

I wanted to share with you one of the most simplest recipes ever. It is my homemade hummus and I have to warn you that it doesn’t taste like shop bought hummus BUT it’s still yummy and I always like making things for several reasons the first being just because it is a big hobby of mine and it’s much more satisfying making your own meal than whipping out something that is premade!



  • 1 tin chickpeas, drained
  • 1 tbsp lemon juice
  • 1 garlic clove, chopped
  • 2 tbsp olive oil

What to do:

  1. Place all ingredients in a food processer or you can use a hand blender or just mash by hand. Blend until it has made a smooth puree and then tadah you are done!
  2. Don’t freak out about the oil because olive oil is SO good for you. I am actually going to list all of the good things about fats because they are essential in the diet and people seem to be afraid of fats when they shouldn’t be because we need ALL nutrients to make up a BALANCED diet.

Why fats are so good for you and why you need them in your diet:

  • Carbohydrates are the main source of energy in the body but when the body has ran out it will turn to the fat stores to find energy
  • Fats help maintain body temperature
  • They protect and cushion your organs and bodies tissue
  • Used to build new cells
  • Vitamins A, D, E and K are fat soluable vitamins which means without fat they cannot function properly
  • Essential for brain development and nerve function
  • They keep your hair, skin and nails beautiful and shiny, make sure your hair doesn’t fall out and isn’t all brittle and straw like. Protein helps with this as well

Another little thing I wanted to add to this post is that I have a bit of an announcement I guess urm I don’t know what you would call it. I have been thinking for a long while and I want to make a series of blog posts to do with anything mental health and anorexia recovery related. I have been in recovery for four years now and I have learnt A LOT over my time so as well as my recipes and my daily posts on this blog which I love doing so much once a week I will be doing posts on things so this week was why fats are good for you and I will also be doing things like my personal views on stopping counting calories, how to deal with friends/family who are on a diet, extreme hunger in recovery and so on. I want to be able to share my experiences with people and to help them. I would love it if you commented to say if you think this is a good idea and also if you have suggestions of posts I could do then I would love that so much. I have decided to call this series “the mental health project” because I think that’s a good all round general name for the sorts of topics I will be talking about.

Red lentil and vegetable sauce


Today I wanted to share with you one of my all time favourite recipes. I make this so much and it is so quick and easy and such a favourite of mine. You can serve it with anything you like: rice, couscous etc. I always have mine with pasta.

1 onion, finely chopped
2 celery sticks, finely chopped
2 carrots, diced
4 garlic cloves, crushed
1 tbsp each tomato puree and balsamic vinegar
250g diced vegetables. You can you anything you like I used: courgette, red pepper and mushrooms
50g red lentils
2 x 400g cans chopped tomatoes

What to do:

  • Tip the onion, celery and carrots into a large non stick pan and add 2-3tbsp of water. Cook gently, stirring often until the vegetables are soft
  • Add the garlic, tomato puree and balsamic vinegar, cook on a high heat for one minute more, add the diced vegetables, lentils and tomatoes and then bring to the boil
  • Turn the heat down to simmer then cook for about 20 minutes until all the vegetables have cooked.
  • Enjoy 🙂


Let me get this off my chest.. I am struggling a lot. I am struggling with feeling so shit all the time and I am struggling with food. It feels like I am getting more depressed as the days go on and im getting no where in this life or recovery. I worry that I am not good enough for people and my animals and I worry because I do nothing all day. I am too tired to do anything. It literally takes all my energy to deal with my depression and also with my ed.

I can not stop thinking about food. I know I am restricting my calories but I am doing better than I was last week but my mind just will not leave me alone. Counting calories constantly is exhausting me. I literally spend everyday looking at food blogs/recipes/instagram wishing that I could be as healthy as these people and that I am not healthy enough because I don’t eat “clean” and my nutrient balance isnt correct.

I HAVE to document everything on myfittness pal at least two days in advance to make sure I am not going “over the limit” and so the percentages of my macronutrients are acceptable. Just WHY? I am completely neglecting everything for food and depression and it won’t go away! These anti depressents are not helping at all but I have to give them “a good chunk of time” I asked how long a good chunk of time is and he said a few months. WELL I HAVE BEEN ON THEM FOR A FEW MONTHS ALREADY. But no I have to wait for another “few months.” When will this end? I just want to go to sleep and never wake up.